When you’re planning a wedding, choosing the right photographer can feel like one of the biggest decisions. There are so many talented people out there, but how can you be sure you’ve found a photographer who is actually focused on your day, not on their Instagram feed.
It’s a very real problem in the age of social media…
They Should Be There for You, Not Themselves
A photographer should care about capturing your story, not just building their portfolio. A photographer should ultimately work with the flow of your day, making sure to capture the moments that matter to you, not push you into some forced “creative vision” that feels like it’s more about them than your celebration.
The right photographer will take the time to listen to what you want. They’ll get to know you as a couple and understand your vibe. You should feel like they’re your teammate, not someone standing in the background waiting for their next “perfect shot.”
They’re About the Moments, Not the Spotlight
Let’s be honest: sometimes wedding photographers can have a bit of a spotlight-hogging vibe. They want to get the perfect shot, and sometimes this can come at the expense of your comfort or get in the way of real moments you’re trying to enjoy leaving you feeling like a prop in their personal art project.
On the flip side, a down-to-earth photographer knows when to step back and let things unfold naturally. They know that the best moments aren’t always the ones that are planned or perfectly framed. They’re the little exchanges between you and your partner, the spontaneous laughs with friends, the way your grandma smiles when you say your vows. These are the photos that really tell the story of your day—and a photographer without an ego will make sure those moments happen without disrupting the flow.
They’re Not “Too Good” for You
It’s easy to get caught up in the hype of hiring a photographer with a big name or flashy portfolio. But the truth is, a photographer with a genuine approach doesn’t need to be a celebrity to do a great job. The best photographers don’t treat their clients like they’re lucky to be there—they treat you like collaborators, making sure everything feels relaxed and effortless.
An ego-less photographer isn’t going to show up on the big day acting like they’re above everyone else. They’ll be present, kind, approachable, and willing to jump in to help (whether it’s holding a dress or keeping your flower girl calm). They know that every couple is different, and they don’t treat their clients like another “gig”—they treat your wedding like an experience they’re honoured to be part of.
Look for Someone Who’s Focused on You, Not Their Brand
When you’re choosing your photographer, ask yourself this: Do you feel like they’re listening to your needs and ideas? Or are they pushing their own style or brand? A photographer who truly has no ego will take the time to understand what makes you tick, what moments are most important to you, and how you envision your day. They’ll make sure you feel heard and respected.
At the end of the day, your wedding isn’t about flashy poses or a photographer’s personal artistic vision—it’s about the love you’re celebrating. So, when you find a photographer who makes you feel comfortable and seen, you’ll know you’ve found someone who cares more about capturing your memories than showing off their own skills.
If that sounds like the vibe you’re looking for, I’d love to be the photographer who focuses on your day, without the ego. Let’s chat and see if we’re the right fit for each other!
Erin x
Planning a last minute wedding in the Lake District and still need a photographer? Get in touch now, and let’s make it happen!